Trust Your Instincts About People..

It is not every would-be mentor you should rush to. Some people will take you under their wings so you won’t fly higher than them.
Others will ask to “help” you because they see in you a certain ability or talent that they can harness to their own advantage.

Be careful. Don’t hesitate to walk away without a backward glance once your gut feelings says go!

Trust your instincts.

I Don’t Have “To Feel Humbled”…

So I have been learning some important lessons about humility and I think that humility is one character trait that we would all like to believe we possess.  But we can hardly think we are humble without feeling some pride in our “humility” and that just negates the whole thing right?

I am learning that there is no such thing as “feeling humble” because humility is not a feeling. It can begin as an attitude that then develops into a core character trait.

In my industry, when people say they “feel humbled” (especially after an award or a special recognition of some sort) what they are really saying is that they feel somewhat undeserving of that recognition and are grateful for it.

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No. They Won’t Let You “Be Yourself”…

So many times, i hear people say to me: “I like you because you are so real. Please keep on being yourself”. I used to think i know what that meant, but these days i’m not sure i do.

I have since realized that when people tell you to keep being yourself, they really don’t mean it. What they are actually saying is, “keep being the version of you that we like and we are comfortable with”.  They ask you to be “yourself” but the moment they can’t understand your actions, can’t figure you out or you step out of formation, they are right there telling what to do, what to think and how to live your life.

“I don’t like the way you left your hair unstyled”.

“Why don’t you wear more skirts?”

“You should wear more make-up”

“Why don’t you hang out more”

And on and on… the unsolicited advice never stops.  They want you to “please be yourself” but they won’t let you be.

8 Traits of a Confident Woman

1. She’s had enough. When you’ve had enough of living for someone else, pleasing others, craving others’ approval or of those who bind your life with theirs; when you’ve had enough of the fear of confronting someone or are ready to stand up for yourself, you’re walking in your God-given confidence. When you are ready to step out of these types of situations and follow God fully, you are a confident woman.

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What I Want To Be….

I want to be a woman quiet in spirit. I want to be a woman seen for her good heart not her appearance. I want to be known as a servant. I want to listen and be heard. I want to be a woman who is kind. I want to be a woman after God’s own heart.

THE SMELL

I looked out the car window anxiously as the cab turned the last corner into my street and moved slowly down the road. I couldn’t wait to step out of the heated cab into my house and turn on the Air conditioning. I had been away for 4 days. 4 long days, attending a Christian leader’s conference in Benin I was glad to be home.

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I Don’t Have To Change The World!

I have learned that I will not change the world, Jesus will do that. I can however change my world. i can change my environment. I can change the world for one person. I can change the world for fourteen little girls and for four hundred schoolchildren and for a sick and dying grandmother and for a malnourished, neglected, abused five-year old. And if one person sees the love of Christ in me, it is worth every minute.

In fact, it is worth spending my life for!

4LaH!

YOU MATTER!

People need you. People you love and even people you have never met are depending on you. You matter to God as well. No one else can be the person you were created to be. Do not think for a minute that you are not important; the world needs you and God loves you.

It’s Church! Not An Exclusive Club.

The church should be seen as a hospital; a rehab clinic; a place of refuge. The church is NOT an exclusive country club. Stop treating it like one. The person smoking outside the church doors; the woman in “inappropriate clothing”; the man with beer on his breath; these are children of God, not excuses to pass judgmental glances at. Ask them their story. Buy them lunch. REALLY listen to them. That, is the gospel…not telling them that they “need to get their act together” in order to come to church.

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Seeking Justice For Alice!

 

My heart is extremely broken at the Injustice and Indignity a lady was forced to suffer at the hands of an uncaring employer and a company that obviously doesn’t care about it’s employees.

It’s bad enough to be forced into a below minimum wage job as a result of the country’s dire economic situation, but to be assaulted and treated like an animal is just too much to bear in silence.

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Staying Out Of Trouble

 

How difficult is it to live in these “modern” times?  When I look around me, at this present age we are living in, I shake my head in silent sadness, at the desolation. Despite the parties, the hustle and bustle and the glamour of the industry where I work, there is a deep layer of unhappiness, confusion and loneliness in so many people.

So many are lured by the bright lights, the attention, the “popularity”, the illusion of prosperity and etc… but I can tell you it’s a deep, dark hole.  This is what is really happening:

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