It is not every would-be mentor you should rush to. Some people will take you under their wings so you won’t fly higher than them.
Others will ask to “help” you because they see in you a certain ability or talent that they can harness to their own advantage.
Be careful. Don’t hesitate to walk away without a backward glance once your gut feelings says go!
So I have been learning some important lessons about humility and I think that humility is one character trait that we would all like to believe we possess. But we can hardly think we are humble without feeling some pride in our “humility” and that just negates the whole thing right?
I am learning that there is no such thing as “feeling humble” because humility is not a feeling. It can begin as an attitude that then develops into a core character trait.
In my industry, when people say they “feel humbled” (especially after an award or a special recognition of some sort) what they are really saying is that they feel somewhat undeserving of that recognition and are grateful for it.
Continue reading “I Don’t Have “To Feel Humbled”…”
So many times, i hear people say to me: “I like you because you are so real. Please keep on being yourself”. I used to think i know what that meant, but these days i’m not sure i do.
I have since realized that when people tell you to keep being yourself, they really don’t mean it. What they are actually saying is, “keep being the version of you that we like and we are comfortable with”. They ask you to be “yourself” but the moment they can’t understand your actions, can’t figure you out or you step out of formation, they are right there telling what to do, what to think and how to live your life.
“I don’t like the way you left your hair unstyled”.
“Why don’t you wear more skirts?”
“You should wear more make-up”
“Why don’t you hang out more”
And on and on… the unsolicited advice never stops. They want you to “please be yourself” but they won’t let you be.
1. She’s had enough. When you’ve had enough of living for someone else, pleasing others, craving others’ approval or of those who bind your life with theirs; when you’ve had enough of the fear of confronting someone or are ready to stand up for yourself, you’re walking in your God-given confidence. When you are ready to step out of these types of situations and follow God fully, you are a confident woman.
Continue reading “8 Traits of a Confident Woman”
I want to be a woman quiet in spirit. I want to be a woman seen for her good heart not her appearance. I want to be known as a servant. I want to listen and be heard. I want to be a woman who is kind. I want to be a woman after God’s own heart.
Our society glorifies singleness. The world shouts, “Now is your opportunity to live as selfishly as possible. Make the most of it!”
But God calls us to a totally different lifestyle.
Continue reading “Being Single and Selfish”
I looked out the car window anxiously as the cab turned the last corner into my street and moved slowly down the road. I couldn’t wait to step out of the heated cab into my house and turn on the Air conditioning. I had been away for 4 days. 4 long days, attending a Christian leader’s conference in Benin I was glad to be home.
Continue reading “THE SMELL”
Have you made the decision to forget the past? Many people don’t fully understand what that means. They wonder, “How can I forget something that’s happened to me?” But one definition of the word forget is to disregard intentionally or to overlook.
Continue reading “Have You Forgotten The Past?”
I have learned that I will not change the world, Jesus will do that. I can however change my world. i can change my environment. I can change the world for one person. I can change the world for fourteen little girls and for four hundred schoolchildren and for a sick and dying grandmother and for a malnourished, neglected, abused five-year old. And if one person sees the love of Christ in me, it is worth every minute.
In fact, it is worth spending my life for!
Unless God gives you the say so, you are dating for your own selfish ambition. Whether it be loneliness, a perfect companion (on the exterior), someone to make you laugh, you’re bored, and the list goes on and on.
Continue reading “On Dating and Relationships….”
Wait! Why am i even blogging food? Well, i guess i can’t hide it from you. I love good food. and fried irish potatoes just happen to be my favorite. This is just one of the times when my heart is so full of joy and praise to God for his favor and mercy towards me.
Continue reading “This Just Gets To Me In A Very Deep Way….”
The church should be seen as a hospital; a rehab clinic; a place of refuge. The church is NOT an exclusive country club. Stop treating it like one. The person smoking outside the church doors; the woman in “inappropriate clothing”; the man with beer on his breath; these are children of God, not excuses to pass judgmental glances at. Ask them their story. Buy them lunch. REALLY listen to them. That, is the gospel…not telling them that they “need to get their act together” in order to come to church.
My heart is extremely broken at the Injustice and Indignity a lady was forced to suffer at the hands of an uncaring employer and a company that obviously doesn’t care about it’s employees.
It’s bad enough to be forced into a below minimum wage job as a result of the country’s dire economic situation, but to be assaulted and treated like an animal is just too much to bear in silence.
Continue reading “Seeking Justice For Alice!”
How difficult is it to live in these “modern” times? When I look around me, at this present age we are living in, I shake my head in silent sadness, at the desolation. Despite the parties, the hustle and bustle and the glamour of the industry where I work, there is a deep layer of unhappiness, confusion and loneliness in so many people.
So many are lured by the bright lights, the attention, the “popularity”, the illusion of prosperity and etc… but I can tell you it’s a deep, dark hole. This is what is really happening:
Continue reading “Staying Out Of Trouble”