Be friends with those who are wise, and you will become wise. Choose fools to be your friends, and you will have trouble. – Proverbs 13:30 (ERV)
Spend some time to evaluate your friendships. Take some time to answer these questions:
- How did you become friends?
- Why did you decide to be friends?
- What do you talk about when you are together?
- How has the friendship drawn you closer to God?
- What habits have you learned or picked up from them?
- What are their values and life principles?
- How much of your values and principles do they agree with?
- How do they react when you do not agree with them?
- How do you feel when they do not approve of your beliefs or actions?
- Are they as invested in the friendship as much as you are?
- How have you grown from being friends with them?
I never used to pay much attention before. But about a year ago, i had some friends and something happened that made me re-evaluate that friendship. it made me look inwards and take a hard critical look at myself.
I discovered i was changing. I was morphing into a character my environment was creating. I was becoming influenced by the words i was hearing, the attitudes of those i was hanging out with and i had over time, put on a cloak of criticism and condemnation.
I didn’t like it. so i stepped away. i kept my distance and started to learn how to let God clean me up and detoxify me. i didn’t understand how deep it was until recently when the lord started to talk to me again about how our associations can either cover us in grace or take us out of the covering.
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