Emotional Abuse; Spot The Signs & Run!

So many women (and men) are in emotionally abusive relationships and they don’t even realize it. So many don’t know because they don’t realize the implications of what is being done to them.

Emotional abuse leaves deeper scars than physical abuse. because your mind is attacked. In almost all cases of physical abuse, emotional abuse usually starts long before the physical assaults.

In case you have not been paying attention, here are some signs of an emotionally abusive relationship. I’m addressing women here but it also applies to men too. So, read with understanding..

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Emotional Manipulation – The Silent Treatment

Have you ever been on the receiving end of “the silent treatment”? When a friend or spouse totally freezes you out and shuts down all communication and connection because of a perceived wrong or conflict? I think it’s one of the most devastating things to happen to a relationship.

The silent treatment is born out of a desire to inflict hurt. This person wants to ostracize you “to teach you a lesson”. According to psychologists, being given the silent treatment is also an effective form of emotional manipulation.

People who deal with conflict by meting out the silent treatment are described as emotionally immature or who has a desire to dominate but has a problem with effective communication. The only way they can “make you pay” for what you have done is by withdrawing emotionally and sometimes physically.

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Connect Not Emotionally “Attach”

Do you ever meet people you’re drawn to help in some way? I’m not talking about doing the little you can when they ask you for help. I’m talking about connecting on such a deeper level that you feel their pain, you are elated at their success and you’re down at their disappointments.

I believe that some of us connect this way to some people’s needs because it’s a calling and a divine assignment. We’re destiny helpers. God sends us to his kids and we do what we’re called to do and move on to the next one.

We however do need to be very careful how we handle our assignments.
It’s easy to misinterpret that divine connection if we walk in the flesh.
If we’re not sensitive to the holy spirit, we can allow our emotions to rule us and ruin everything. We are not sent to get emotionally directed, we are not sent to “fall in love”. We are sent to do a job. Do it with a purity of heart and motive.

We give, we encourage, we assist, we build, we motivate and we love sacrificially. All in the power and wisdom of the Holy Spirit. Understanding that we are messengers sent on a mission, and answerable only to the master who has sent us.