There’s a lot that is being said about self-love these days it’s almost becoming ‘trendy’ or ‘woke’ to talk about self-love. but what really is self-love?
It sounds like it’s self-explanatory enough when you look at it at face value. We read articles telling us all about loving ourselves, loving our bodies, pampering ourselves, taking trips alone, shopping, going to the spa, and generally giving ourselves a treat.
These are all nice things to do but that’s not all self-love is all about. Self-Love is deeper than that. self-love is about knowing yourself well enough to accept who you really are with no ambiguities and masking and falling in love with who you really are.
Trust me when I say it doesn’t always come easy because what we usually do is have a mental picture of who we want to be or who we think we should be. When we do that, we tend to view as flaws as personal failings and unconsciously self-condemn. This mental attitude makes it difficult to genuinely embrace who we really are because deep inside, we don’t like what we see when we look too hard. It makes us sensitive to criticism and opinions of people about us become especially important.
We work extra hard to project the image of the person we think we should be, we work hard to become that person rather than let God be the one to work the change in us himself.
It’s hard to receive love when you have not accepted to love your own personality. I have been there and i can tell you it’s not pretty.
I Loved who I wanted to be. I didn’t love the real me; I lived in constant fear that my lover will see the real me and not love who he sees. I didn’t know the real me is lovable even when flawed, that in my mistakes and imperfections, I am special and deserve love.
We have to understand and accept that WE ARE LOVED. EVEN IN OUR MESS, WE ARE LOVED.
“Christ died for us while we were still sinners, and by this God showed how much he loves us.” (Romans 5:8)
God knows us more than we know ourselves, he sees our messed up thoughts, behavior, habits and attitudes and loves us still. It’s his loves that cleans us up and transforms us completely. God’s love, acceptance and delight in us are always constant.
We can’t put up a front for God, can’t wear a mask for him. He knows and loves unconditionally. Until we accept this truth, it will be hard to accept who we really are love who we really are.
As you trust in this truth, you can now look at yourself without flinching and wanting to cover up. you can now open up to God and be vulnerable with him so that he can truly change you and smoothen your rough edges. Let his love do the work