Gifted & Thinking Of Leaving The Church…

God has blessed the church with an abundance of gifts and talents and it’s so beautiful to see these gifts flourish and bless lives as they are harnessed, developed and expressed.

” He handed out gifts above and below, filled heaven with his gifts, filled earth with his gifts. He handed out gifts of apostle, prophet, evangelist, and pastor-teacher to train Christ’s followers in skilled servant work, working within Christ’s body, the church, until we’re all moving rhythmically and easily with each other, efficient and graceful in response to God’s Son, fully mature adults, fully developed within and without, fully alive like Christ.”

Eph 4:11-13 (MSG)

God made it a point to bless his children with all manner of gifts and there are various expressions of these gifts;  some are expressed through the arts, some are expressed through sciences, some are expressed directly in church  ministry and some are even expressed in political governance. Bottom line, is all these gifts come from God and we should be thankful for them and not stifle them.

Someone i recently met, said she would be leaving her present church because her and her husband believed that their unique gifts were being stifled and denied of expression. I was sad but i understood where she was coming from. I have also been in a place where i saw so many young talented people leave because they were denied expression.

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Let’s Plan An Easter Road Trip With IRINAJO! @Irinajo_NG

The Easter Holidays are just around the corner and here’s a great way to enjoy the break with your family and friends. Go on a trip with IRINAJO!

IRINAJO is an online tourism organisation primarily focused on exotic and beautiful locations in Nigeria. The trips are fun and attention is paid to your comfort and your security.

From the moment you step on board with IRINAJO, you are met with smiles and treated like royalty.

This Easter, IRINAJO has planned a fun filled road trip from Lagos to Ibadan, Osogbo, Ibodi, Ilesha, Erin Ijesha and back to Lagos.

The tour package includes hotel, feeding, games, and entrance fee to all side attractions. Trust me, you cannot afford to miss this. Just pack your bags, get your camera and get ready to have an amazing adventure!

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I WILL Be Grateful!

God is teaching me to stop being selfish and I’m proving too stubborn to learn. But in time, my restless and loss of peace has pushed me to pay attention to the lessons.
I spend way too much time thinking about what I want and what I don’t have and where I need to be. It drains my energy and it steals my joy. I become anxious and I stop being grateful.
Paying so much attention to what you don’t have blinds you from seeing and appreciating what you already have. Focusing on the people that have left you will stop you from properly loving and paying attention to the people who stayed.
FOLA, when was the last time you were really grateful for all God has done? You are saved, blessed with spiritual gifts, empowered to be a blessing, you’re healthy, favored with a job and a roof over your head and more… 
Yet you pay more attention to what you think you don’t have. Have you considered that you don’t have it because you lack gratitude for what you do have? ” says Father God
So I retrace my steps. My season of gratitude starts today. No more despondency. No more silent cravings. No more anxiety for what may or may not happen. I will look outside myself and make my gifts and blessings available for others.
I am God’s blessed child. I will show gratitude by being a blessing.

Bullying From The Pulpit…

There was a long period in my life where the nickname “church girl” would suit me perfectly. Raised in church, became an almost fanatical Pentecostal young adult, and then by God’s mercy, translated to a well-balanced Christian woman.

On that journey, I had several opportunities of working behind the scenes as a choir leader, group leader, church worker, pastoral assistant staff and I believe those experiences were instrumental to my breaking free of the bounds that I almost didn’t realize held me.

Bullies exist in every walk of life. They’re in our homes, in schools and they’re in the workplace and they’re in church too! The thing is, the bullies in church are very good at cloaking this horrible act in spiritual hocus pocus.  It’s painful to watch so many Christians slowly get sucked into the vortex of charismatic pastors and leaders who are skilled at making followers who are so eager to please them, do what they want.

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I Want An Egalitarian Marriage…

I grew up exposed to conservative, christian marriages even though I was raised by a single mother. I was raised to aspire to that kind of marriage because it’s the “right and proper way”. Gender and relationship stereotypes where husbands lead and wives followed or  submit were entrenched in every lesson, moral instruction and youth counseling session.

As I grew older and started looking closely, I saw  how unhappy most of  the married people around me were; the women struggling and sometimes resigned to playing their assigned gender roles and I knew something was wrong with that dynamic and I was sure I wanted none of it.

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Embracing The Journey Of Growing Older…

The Older i get, the more i realize i no longer want a lot of things i thought i wanted. I’ll call myself a late bloomer; It took me a while to really find myself and be friends with myself.

The older i get, the more i become comfortable with the woman i am and the more i embrace and anticipate the woman i’m becoming.

The older i get, the more self-aware i become. I am confident to say what i want, i make choices with certainty, i love without fear, and i work towards my purpose with clarity.

I’ll turn thirty-three in July and i am looking forward to my mid-thirties. I must say life in the 30’s is pretty good. It has it’s struggles of course, but the learning on the journey has been amazing.

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If There’s An Aisle Walking, We’re Taking That Walk Together..

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In Nigeria, weddings are a big deal. I’ve enjoyed my share of them (attending that is. lol) and for some reasons i do not want to critically analyse, i have started thinking about what mine would look like if i do decide to have one.

Of course, i thought about clothes, venues, food, music and all the attending glitterati. But what really occupied my thoughts was the tradition of fathers walking their daughters down the aisle, or the closest male relative if the father is dead.

Some historical perspective here;  “In ancient times, it was very common for female children to have either arranged marriages or be purchased by their future groom so-to-speak. The root word “wedd” of Anglo-Saxon derivation actually means a “pledge” or “vow”.

This either referred to the groom vowing to marry the woman or it meant the barter money or trade agreement with the bride’s father for his daughter. The actual word wedding refers to a “wager”.

Therefore, the bride’s father would setup a type of contract with the groom that he would barter for land, social status, or even political reputation, which back then was as significant as it is today.

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How Can We Love Them If We Shun Them? The Question Of 1 Cor 5:11


I have always read this passage with some burning questions;

How then do we continue to love them if we shun them?  If we “refuse to eat with them”, cutting off all association, where is the place of love and tolerance?  So many Christians struggle with these issues…

How exactly does cutting them off help them?

Can you shut someone out and still pray for them?  What’s the motive of our hearts when we shut someone out?  Does that not elevate us to a place of self righteousness?  Thinking we are better than they are?

Has this theology actually helped a sinner come back?

This is Apostle Paul’s doctrine to the Corinthian church. What would Jesus do?


Use the comment section below if you have answers. Let’s discuss….