My grandmother was fond of proverbs and parables and metaphors. I have since realized that this fondness isn’t peculiar to her. African parents of their generation are specialists in using proverbs and adages to pass down wisdom to the next generation.
One of such proverbs I heard from my grandma is “Without a crack in the wall, the wall gecko wouldn’t find a way into the house”
She said it so often that it became a cliche. Now cliches are dangerous. Because once you identify them as one, you have the tendency to gloss over them, become bored with them and consequently, lose sight of the underlying wisdom.
That’s exactly what happened. I never paid this seemingly tiny morsel of wisdom any mind until I lived the truth of that statement.
“Without a crack in the wall, the wall gecko wouldn’t find a way into the house”
Wall geckos are sly creatures. They can be quite invisible actually because they stay out of your way. Hiding behind closets and curtains and God knows where else.
We largely ignore them because they are considered harmless. Until one day you dig into your closet to find that some of your clothes have mysterious holes in them. Lol
Unforgiveness is the crack in the wall of your relationship and the feelings of entitlement & pride are like wall geckos. They come in via that crack and your ignore or justify their presence because you have no idea how dangerous they are.
Conflicts happen. My grandma says that no matter how close the tongue and the teeth are, they still fight. Another Yoruba proverb says, one cannot walk without one’s head moving. In other words, no matter how perfect the relationship is, at some point, you’ll rub against each other.
Conflicts, whether big or small can trigger unprecedented and unexpected reactions and feelings. Question is: what will you do with the feelings?
Thoughts will come. Angry ones, fearful ones, sometimes, vengeful ones. What will you do with them?
These days, I’m learning how powerful our minds are. How the negative thoughts we allow in and brood over, can become toxic to our system and hatch negative behaviors and attitudes.
Unforgiveness is very sly. It can hide so well that you won’t even know it’s there. But when you least expect, it will manifest. It shows itself in how easily irritated you become with the person, how you are unconsciously looking out for perceived slights or offence, how you emotionally withdraw from the person even after you have ‘made up’, how you won’t let yourself trust again.
These are toxins that build up in your mind and when the more you entertain them, the more you lose your joy and the more the relationship suffers.
The devil is a masterful liar remember? He’s crafty too. He knows your vulnerabilities and insecurities. So he’ll use the unforgiveness crack, come in and lie to your mind, giving you all the reasons why you should hold back on loving and trust
The more you listen, the more your attitude, mindset and behavior mirrors what the devil wants. You become a bitter, angry and suspicious person.
Spiritually, you cannot connect with God because a hardened heart cannot hear God.
Before you get here, SEAL THE CRACK today! Even if you think things have gone really bad, it doesn’t matter. YOU CAN TAKE YOUR JOY BACK.
Use the scriptures below and search the word for more. It’s war situation here and you’re going to have to meditate on these words and let it soak through you. Then USE THEM IN PRAYER.
Reclaim your mind in prayer by declaring your freedom in christ and walk in the consciousness of your victory.
“The Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.”