When I saw the above tweet, believe me i was stunned and then i was livid. Interestingly, not at the guy who tweeted this; but at the horde of single women who have allowed themselves to become this statistic. The sad fact is that, this guy is right. Most single women above 26 are easily lured into empty relationships because they are quick to bite on the “marriage bait”.
Is it wrong to want to be married? NO!
Is it wrong to want a relationship that leads to marriage? Absolutely Not! Marriage is ordained by God and honoured by God, so why should a single woman who loves and serves God be ashamed of wanting a mate? Society has made us feel that if a matured lady wants marriage, she must be “desperate” or something must be wrong with her.
I believe that is a lie of the devil.
So how can a single woman avoid the “marriage bait” that eventually leads to fornication and heartbreak?
- Focus on God’s purpose: There is a reason you are where you are right now. God has a specific purpose for your life. As a single woman, when you discover that purpose, focusing on it will shield you from keeping company with men that are not seeking God. Your purpose is not just about you; it’s about what God wants to do through you. when you locate yourself in God’s purpose, most likely, you will understand why you are single at this time.
- Let the word control you: Colossians 3:16 – “Let the Word of Christ; the Message, have the run of the house. Give it plenty of room in your lives…” A lot of us study the bible, we know the scriptures and we even quote it, but is it the deciding factor in our life decisions? Think about it: Who has the final say over your life’s decisions? Your feelings, your desires? Your mind or the word of God?
- Understand God’s purpose for marriage: As a single woman, you have to understand that a successful marriage is built upon biblical truths. God’s purpose for your marriage fulfils five purposes: worship, fellowship, discipleship, ministry, and missions. When you understand this, you will not jump into bed with any man just because he promised you marriage.